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push away people i love

Dear Nicole: Why Do I Push Away The People I Love?

Posted on April 25, 2020April 29, 2020 by The Many Concerns of Nicole
Dear Nicole, I have a hard time committing to people. I thought I loved my boyfriend but then I started to feel suffocated so I...Read More
is online dating ruining relationships

Dear Nicole: Is Online Dating Ruining Relationships?

Posted on April 25, 2020April 27, 2020 by The Many Concerns of Nicole
Dear Nicole, I hear about all the success cases for online meetings from time to time. Even 2 of my friends found their current partners...Read More

I Interviewed 6 Millennial’s About Online Dating And Here’s What They Had To Say

Posted on October 3, 2017January 1, 2018 by The Many Concerns of Nicole
People use online dating apps for various reasons, whether it be hooking up, adding a third partner to their relationship, trying to find a partner,...Read More

7 Reasons People Stay In Abusive Relationships

Posted on April 3, 2017April 3, 2017 by The Many Concerns of Nicole
There are various reasons why people stay in abusive relationships. Even if you have never been in one, it is important to understand the complexities...Read More
Gaslighting

7 Signs Your Partner Is Gaslighting You And How To Protect Yourself

Posted on March 6, 2017April 27, 2018 by The Many Concerns of Nicole
So what do people mean when they speak of "gaslighting?" Psychology Today defines it as "a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain...Read More

7 Ways To Identify Unhealthy Traits In a Partner

Posted on February 15, 2017May 17, 2017 by The Many Concerns of Nicole
Relationships are bound to have their ups and downs and what makes for a healthy relationship differs between couples. But one thing that remains certain...Read More
Single on Valentine's

6 Things To Do When You’re Single on Valentine’s Day

Posted on February 10, 2017February 16, 2017 by The Many Concerns of Nicole
Although Target has been selling Valentine's day stuff since New Year's Eve, the day is quickly approaching! If you don't have plans with friends or...Read More
Emotionally Abusive Relationship

The Warning Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Posted on January 31, 2017March 20, 2017 by The Many Concerns of Nicole
When you hear about domestic abuse you tend to wonder, why did the victim choose to stay? That’s what I always thought. Never did I imagine that...Read More
Flaky Francine Is the New Convenient Connie

Flaky Francine Is the New Convenient Connie

Posted on January 30, 2017February 16, 2017 by The Many Concerns of Nicole
Friends come and go; it's just the way things are. Nowadays, it seems like Flaky Francine is the new Convenient Connie. "I've Got Better Plans"...Read More

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I used to think people who were “good” couldn’t possibly be racist but racism isn’t about being “good” or “bad.” You can still be racist even if you’re not using racial slurs or physically attacking someone. It took me a while to start to feel the effects that daily microaggressions and casual racism had on me. As a Chinese and Salvadorian person, I knew when someone was being racist and discriminatory against Hispanic people. They’d make immigration jokes or try to lump Hispanic people into being Mexican. That I was very aware of. But I never realized the harm that slight comments and jabs about Asians, specifically Chinese people had on me. I had friends who would call me “exotic” and tell me that it was a compliment. And friends who would tell me that Asian men were ugly, feminine and unattractive. I felt as if though I was conditioned to believe these things because it was something I was hearing all the time. I even questioned whether it was racist or not when someone accused me of having COVID. IT IS RACIST! I think it’s time for people to stop with the white tears and get uncomfortable talking about racism. Especially white people and white-passing people. Your discomfort is nothing compared to people experiencing racism. 

I’m talking about my experiences because it’s therapeutic but it isn’t my job to educate you. If you stand in solidarity with the AAPI community you’ll speak up for us. Don’t laugh when someone at work makes a casually racist “joke.” Don’t let your friends feel alone when they tell you that someone accused them of having COVID. Call out your friends or family when they say something racist. Don’t deny people’s experiences with racism. If someone tells you that YOU said something racist, take the time to understand that what you said/did was wrong. “Good” people can still say and do racist things, it’s up to us to dig deep and do the work to become anti-racist.

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Asian Americans and Asians worldwide have experien Asian Americans and Asians worldwide have experienced an onslaught of attacks during the pandemic due to conservative outlets referring to COVID-19 as the “China virus.” But before people started using hateful words like “Kung Flu” or “Chinese virus” it’s important to remember that anti-Asian racism has existed for hundreds of years which has led to continued repercussions on Asian people worldwide.

The reason hate continues to exist and has now escalated into elderly Asian Americans being attacked is because of daily microaggressions and racist comments that continue to go unchecked and unchallenged. And public figures in the media play a large role in downplaying and normalizing anti-Asian sentiment. 

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Art by @hisueyun 🤩 Last post of the year - Lin Art by @hisueyun 🤩

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Why is it so important that you "live your life" while hundreds of thousands of people are dying from COVID-19?
One person dies from COVID every 10 minutes in Los Angeles. So is it still important for you to hold your crappy little party right now? Or is it only okay because no one invited is Chinese?
In 2021 I will not be apologizing for how others make me feel about the anti-Asian sentiment that has increased due to the pandemic. After all, even if you don't see me as Chinese, I am! I will not be silent about the racism that I endure and I don't have to hold space for people who don't see how they have hurt me.
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