Dear Nicole: Confused Friend

Dear Nicole,

I have a friend who ditches me to hang out with “cooler friends.” When we make plans they usually fall through because my friend claims to be busy. But then I see my friend hanging out with other people on Snapchat and Instagram. We only seem to hang out when my friend doesn’t have better plans. What should I do?

-Confused Friend

Note: The question has been edited for length and/or clarity.

Dear Confused Friend,

It seems like you have an “I’ll hang out with you unless there’s a better option” situation going on here.

I’m sure you must feel hurt when your friend cancels plans and online you see them hanging out with other people. That behavior is uncool, and a real friend wouldn’t treat you this way.

I think you should be upfront and let them know how you’re feeling. Hopefully, your friend will be able to understand where you’re coming from.

If you and your friend ultimately can’t see eye to eye, you might want to consider ending that friendship.

In the end, just know that a person who consciously cancels plans with you to hang out with “cooler” people isn’t a true friend after all. 

Best of luck!


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