Hi Nicole,

I’m a girl who has a crush on another girl. She doesn’t know me so I sent her a message on Instagram. But it seems like she just ignored it. I don’t know if she’s available, but we have a mutual friend, *she doesn’t know that but I do*. I don’t feel like asking that friend for help cuz we’re not close. What should I do? It’s been a long time since I have feelings for someone. #pleasesendhelp

-Approaching Crush 101

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Hi Approaching Crush 101!

First of all, I’m very sorry for answering this one year later, but better late than never, right?

Well, I don’t know how it ended up working for you, but I hope it all turned out for the best whether you ended up with your crush or not. 

Having a crush is always fun, so I get why you were frustrated and nervous. I think you sending her a message on Instagram was a great start! Unfortunately, she maybe either didn’t see your message or did and just didn’t reply, so there’s really nothing else you could have done. But at least you can walk away knowing that you tried to make a connection.

Sometimes having a crush is simply just…crushing. That butterfly feeling is wonderful, but that feeling of anxiety wondering whether or not your crush acknowledges your existence or even feels the same way is agonizing! Crushes will come and go, but at least you can walk away from this experience knowing that you tried, because all we can really do in life is just try.

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